One
day I told someone once said, "know that 70 percent of people in this
world has a major problem that is with a spouse or family". Then the man
asked me with curiosity, "then what about the other 30 percent?". Then I
replied with a slight smile, they are still single ", then he laughed.
There are many people responded to the conversation. Someone thought it was just a joke, but some people think it's serious stuff. Either a lot of responses, but I responded that it was a little joke seriously. A person who is single may be considered as a joke, otherwise a householder who regard it as something serious, maybe even scary!
One day a mother came to the monastery. Because the monk was not in place then I am a mother to see it, the mother initially was met with children who work in the monastery, and the mother says that she wants to see the monk who, according to child labor in the monastery.
The new mother once came to the monastery, he has been married four years and already has two children, he said. in the early years of marriage, he lives in a happy family. Everything always runs smoothly. If there is any conflict, all well handled. in short, no significant problems.
Later, after the second child born yag, her husband began to be more preoccupied with his work. He often came home tonight and have a schedule out of town more. If you come home, her husband came with fatigue and a myriad of complaints he said. Then the communication between them more negative.
As a novice (candidate monk / monk), an obligation for me to help their best, and even then this was possible. I said to my mother, "Mother please understand, I is not had a family life. Mothers would be better to ask an experienced lord, for example a monk who was once married. Mothers can meet existing monk at the monastery of Buddha Sujata, mother's near there. Mother replied, "I've never been there but there was no chance bhantenya in place. Yes, today I am grateful to be able to talk with the novices' mother said.
I then said, "The bu however, in common life it must have good communication. Mother if she wishes to speak should be accompanied by a willingness to listen. And, importantly, do not be a mother emotionally. "
"Novice, I've tried, but he always does. Whatever I do, the response is always cool! I can not stand the treatment was continued. I was not fit her premises, novices ". Steam pouring the pieces he has in mind. With the tone of a joke then I said, "But Mommy, my mother was 4 years of living together, and the mother had given birth two children. How could the mother not fit? "Mother was silent for a moment, for some reason, he laughs, though with somewhat muffled sound. "Yes yes novices, novices yes my emotions?"
In fact the mother was not too concerned about my speech, let alone my advice. Perhaps he knew that his interlocutor had no direct experience in family life-stairs. Yes, I understand. Mom does not need the answer. He just needed someone who would hear the case. Anyway, that day I helped walo just a listener. Quite right, making people laugh walo bias under pressure?. Well at least a valuable lesson for me from hearing, although not directly learn from the experience.
There are many people responded to the conversation. Someone thought it was just a joke, but some people think it's serious stuff. Either a lot of responses, but I responded that it was a little joke seriously. A person who is single may be considered as a joke, otherwise a householder who regard it as something serious, maybe even scary!
One day a mother came to the monastery. Because the monk was not in place then I am a mother to see it, the mother initially was met with children who work in the monastery, and the mother says that she wants to see the monk who, according to child labor in the monastery.
The new mother once came to the monastery, he has been married four years and already has two children, he said. in the early years of marriage, he lives in a happy family. Everything always runs smoothly. If there is any conflict, all well handled. in short, no significant problems.
Later, after the second child born yag, her husband began to be more preoccupied with his work. He often came home tonight and have a schedule out of town more. If you come home, her husband came with fatigue and a myriad of complaints he said. Then the communication between them more negative.
As a novice (candidate monk / monk), an obligation for me to help their best, and even then this was possible. I said to my mother, "Mother please understand, I is not had a family life. Mothers would be better to ask an experienced lord, for example a monk who was once married. Mothers can meet existing monk at the monastery of Buddha Sujata, mother's near there. Mother replied, "I've never been there but there was no chance bhantenya in place. Yes, today I am grateful to be able to talk with the novices' mother said.
I then said, "The bu however, in common life it must have good communication. Mother if she wishes to speak should be accompanied by a willingness to listen. And, importantly, do not be a mother emotionally. "
"Novice, I've tried, but he always does. Whatever I do, the response is always cool! I can not stand the treatment was continued. I was not fit her premises, novices ". Steam pouring the pieces he has in mind. With the tone of a joke then I said, "But Mommy, my mother was 4 years of living together, and the mother had given birth two children. How could the mother not fit? "Mother was silent for a moment, for some reason, he laughs, though with somewhat muffled sound. "Yes yes novices, novices yes my emotions?"
In fact the mother was not too concerned about my speech, let alone my advice. Perhaps he knew that his interlocutor had no direct experience in family life-stairs. Yes, I understand. Mom does not need the answer. He just needed someone who would hear the case. Anyway, that day I helped walo just a listener. Quite right, making people laugh walo bias under pressure?. Well at least a valuable lesson for me from hearing, although not directly learn from the experience.
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